WHAT IS RESILIENCE? According to Webster’s dictionary, resilience is ,”the ability to recover quickly from illness, change, or misfortune; buoyancy. It is also the property of a material (woman) that enables it (her) to resume its (her) original shape or position after being bent, stretched, or compressed; elasticity.Is resilience a quality that we are born with or is it a quality we can learn? Dr. Sam Goldstein, Ph.D., Psychologist at the University of Utah and author of The Power of Resilience, says that resilience can be learned.As we age, we need to develop different coping skills to enable us to thrive and prosper, no matter what is going on around us. Resilience is a skill that separates the victorious from those who are not able to keep on going on after a major challenge.
What qualities do resilient people have in common?
- They stay connected with other people. They have a network of friends and family members that support them during challenging times.
- They have a positive attitude and have learned to transform negative thinking into positive thoughts
- They are on a spiritual path. “Generally people who are active in a religious faith tend to get through difficult times better” says Al Siebert, Ph.D. author of The Resiliency Advantage.
- They are playful. “Resilient people enjoy themselves like children do,” says Siebert. “They wonder about things, experiment and laugh”.
- They volunteer and do service for others. “The benefit you derive for yourself is as great as that you give to others,” says Goldstein. Research shows that people who help others live longer.
- They stay healthy by eating a whole foods nourishing diet and engage in consistent physical activity.
- They seek solutions and develop strategies to actively get through their challenges.
- They have hobbies that bring them joy and fulfillment.
- They enjoy periods of solitude, to meditate, rest, think, rest and rejuvenate alone.
- They pamper themselves and address their needs.